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How Can Orgasms Be Enhanced?

Researchers have found that men are capable of experiencing extremely intense orgasms, which involve the entire body, as opposed to the “local” sensation of ejaculation on its own.

There are also indications that men are able to experience multiple orgasms, which may or may not occur at the same time as ejaculation.

There is a widespread agreement among medical sex researchers that “the harder your erection and the longer you have sex, the more powerful the orgasm you’re likely to have”. Thus, the key to enhancing the male orgasm is to delay its occurrence for as long as possible. In turn, this means that a man will have enhanced orgasms if he is able to learn to hold back from having an ejaculation. The side benefit of being able to do this is that delayed ejaculation helps to increase fulfillment for the man’s sexual partner, as well as for himself.

There are various proven techniques that can be used by men to help them delay the occurrence of ejaculation. For example, a man can do Kegel exercises, which are designed to strengthen “the pelvic muscles around the base of the penis” – the same muscles that are squeezed “to avoid urinating”. When these muscles are strengthened, the man’s ability to delay ejaculation is greatly increased. The “stop-start technique” is another useful method to delay ejaculation (see also Male Multiple Orgasm, “Edging” Masturbation Technique, Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation - The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point Technique). In this technique, which is used during sex, “a man is repeatedly brought to higher levels of arousal and then stimulation is stopped just before ejaculation begins“.

It has also been noted that ejaculation can be delayed through the voluntary control of movements during sex. After the man’s ejaculation has been delayed, there are still other tricks that can be used to enhance his orgasmic pleasure. For example, it has been noted that the man’s prostate gland is as sensitive as a woman’s “G-spot”. In the words of the sex expert, Barbara Keesling, “to stimulate the spot and prolong your orgasm, ask your partner to gently press the skin right behind and under your testicles (called the perineum) before you ejaculate”.

Read also Male Multiple Orgasm, “Edging” Masturbation Technique, Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation - The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point Technique).

The male orgasm is analogous to the summit of a mountain: In trying to climb up this summit, a man must exert himself physically and emotionally. He must maintain an erection; his prostate must function at 100% capacity; he must pump, sweat, endure tension, anxiety, and stress; and, in the end, he must lose a big portion of his nutrients, energy, and hormones. Immediately after reaching the summit, the man collapses and falls into a deep abyss of exhaustion and feelings of emptiness, depression, guilt, anger, or hunger.

The man will also suffer from dry eyes and mouth, headaches, frequent urination, weakness, and the loss of a huge portion of his youth. Once he ejaculates he will have difficulty producing another erection. So, according to an old saying, “a living lion is reduced in a matter of seconds to a dead dog.” After ejaculating, a man usually rolls over and falls asleep, leaving a woman in a limbo halfway to heaven and halfway to earth. By following his physical instincts only, a man may not be able to take the woman beyond level four of the nine levels of a complete orgasm. The woman, unsatisfied, becomes resentful, angry, and frustrated.

In Taoist theory, this is called an Ordinary Orgasm, and it is the type of orgasm usually described - even encouraged - in most sex manuals (and school dorms). From the Taoist viewpoint, all the work, suffering, and loss traded for half a second of pleasure is uneconomical, worthless, and unwise. Unfortunately, men cannot abstain from (more…)

The Deer Exercise for Men:
Rejuvenation and Increased Arousal Period
From 777 Male Sexual Health

Thousands of years ago, Taoist sages selected three animals which were noted for longevity from the many: the deer, the crane, and the turtle. One of these, the deer, was also noted for its strong sexual and reproductive abilities. The sages minutely observed the behavior that seemed to contribute to the deer’s abilities. They saw that the deer exercised its anus when it wiggled its tail. After studying the results of the exercise, the sages immediately adopted the principle and redesigned it for human use. Thus, the Deer Exercise was born.

The Deer Exercise achieves four important objectives. First of all, it builds up the tissues of the sexual organs. Secondly, it draws energy up through six of the Seven Glands (Pineal, Pituitary, Thyroid, Thymus, Pancreas, Adrenal, Sexual) of the body into the pineal gland (The function of this pine cone shaped gland or body is not fully understood. It is generally believed to be a vestigial [no longer used] sensory organ which is incompletely developed in the modern anatomy; associated with the seventh chakra or the “third eye” used in space/time psychic exercises. )to elevate spirituality. (There is a hormone pathway that leads from the prostate, connects with the adrenal glands, and continues on to the other glands.) Concurrently, blood circulation in the abdominal area is increased. This rush of blood helps transport the nutrients and energy of the semen to the rest of the body.

When energy is brought up into the pineal gland, a chill or tingling sensation is felt to ascend through the spine to reach the head. It feels a little like an orgasm. (more…)

The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as “Wand of Light.” In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a “Wand of Light” that channels creative energy and pleasure.

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

Beginning the Massage

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. (more…)

The Tantric Devotional Practice of Masturbation

Why do it?
So what is “tantric masturbation” all about? What’s the big deal? Isn’t cuming the whole point of having hardons? Cuming with as much volume and as much intensity and as often as possible?

Ignoring those blinded by contemporary culture to think that cocks and clits are only for making babies - no more than the regretably necessary evil of “procreation” according to the “Ancient Christian Holy Fathers”, even most gaymen, like our fellow citizens in general, are often rather dismissive of “MASTURBATION” as being no more than a poor substitute for the real thing, as something “LOSERS” do, etc., etc.

And then to NOT EVEN CUM?
What’s the point of that?
The answer to these questions, to these attitudes which have been so thoroughly, yet stealthily - unconsciously through the language with which we think - taught to those of us (see Tom Laqueur’s EXCELLENT new book, “Solitary Sex - A Cultural History of Masturbation” [2003 New York: Zone Books]) who are infected by Western culture (which, somewhat regretably includes many in Asia to some degree) can only be gotten experientially: one has to DO IT to see why one wants to do it. A bit of a catch-22. But I can say what I find its virtues to be: (more…)

Autofellatio
“Autofellatio is the act of oral stimulation of one’s own penis as a form of masturbation. While few human males are sufficiently well-endowed and/or flexible enough to perform the frontbend required, increased flexibility achieved via physical training such as gymnastics, contortion or yoga may make it possible for some.” - from Wikipedia

I’ve never tried it before, yet if you’re willing to, be careful !
This post is only a short review about the some of the different techniques, using any of them is on your own responsibility only.
Important: Read the following quick tips before (Tips from Self Indulgence):

* IMPORTANT:If you have any existing back problems, disk problems, and especially low back problems, you should exercise extreme caution in attempting to selfsuck. It might be advisable to not even attempt this trick at all. But if you are in reasonably good shape otherwise then proceed on through the tips.
* Stay hydrated: make sure you drink plenty of water on a regular basis to help reduce the chances of muscle cramping.
* If at all possible try to suck yourself with as little in your abdomen as possible, i.e. no food in your stomach and after a good bowel movement. The less things in the way the better!
* Practice will get you there eventually! Just keep trying in small amounts, and over a period of time (maybe a few weeks) you should be able to at least lick the head of your dick. The important thing is to not over do it by trying too hard all at once.
* The younger you are, the easier it will probably be for you simply because generally you are more flexibile when you are young. Age does not matter as much as being able to stretch and maitain your flexibility.
* If it feels like you are just too tight or tired - DO NOT force yourself! Better to wait for another time when you are more limber and better rested. If you pull your muscles or throw out your back you will be waiting a long time before you can try another selfsuck attempt.
* Always stretch and warm up before attempting to selfsuck to avoid injury to your back. Always be sure to stretch well afterward also to help prevent sore muscles.
* Do not attempt first thing in the morning or late at night when muscles are tight or you are tired.
* If you put your legs over your head, always roll up on a bed or cushioned surface to avoid knocking your back out of place.
* Any physical activiy that increases your flexibility is an advantage. Yoga is especially good or even Tai Chi may help.
* A hot shower helps get the muscles warmed up and relaxed.
* You may find that you can reach your dick more easily after a light work out.
* If you find that you simply cannot reach your cock, just enjoy coming into your own mouth. I especially like eating my own sweet & tasty precum! I tease myself as long as possible milking out as much precum as I can. I love sucking it out or drizzling it in my mouth and on my lips. Sometimes rubbing it all over the head of my cock and then licking it off. Can’t get enough of it! Yum!!

Stretching Exercises to Achieve Self Sucking:
A good stretch to begin with is to sit cross-legged on the floor, chair, couch, or bed. (You don’t have to be cross-legged, you could just draw your feet up to your crotch area.) Keeping your back straight, bend your head down until your chin rests on your upper chest. Hold it and relax your body until the tightness in your back lessens. (more…)

This masturbatory technique is done while practicing a basic stretching yoga position (Baddha Konasana):

The Butterfly Stretch
Sit with soles of feet placed together and spread your thighs (not too much, if you’re not very flexible), you can lean your back against a wall.
Masturbate with your favorite technique, while staying in this position. The pelvis, the abdomen and the back get stimulated through a plentiful supply of blood (which is also important for strong erection).
In Yoga, this position (Baddha Konasana) is associated with many health benefits including keeping the kidneys, the prostate and the bladder healthy.

Tips and Variations:
1. Try it while laying on your back…
2. Put a folded pillow or rolled towel, between your ankles and your butt, so you will be able to apply some pressure on the perineum (region between the scrotum and the anus). Keep your balls on the pillow/towel, you don’t want to squash it.
3. When you reach orgasm “wave the wings” - close and open back (spread) your thighs. Link

I have already published perhaps more than one article or thoughts about this (read more about it here: Stop and Go Masturbation Technique, “Edging” Masturbation Technique, Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation - The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point Technique), but I think this is a great technique to learn and/or help to long last all that you want.

Male Multiple Orgasm
From AboutMasturbation.com

Orgasm and ejaculation don’t fall under the same sexual description. By using simple techniques that we’ll cover here, any man can experience orgasms without ejaculating.
Most men believe that ejaculation is the best part of sex, but there is something better - orgasms without any ejaculation at all. It is plausible to have many orgasms in a single session of lovemaking, none of which includes ejaculation. Furthermore, if you end lovemaking and still desire, in other words without ejaculating, you will super-boost your immune system and increase your physical energy, mental creativity, emotional resilience and spiritual quickening.

Remarkably, some men naturally enjoy an extremely rare but equally gratifying sexual practice known as male multiple orgasms. These men are able to ejaculate, and then maintain their erection.
They proceed to have intercourse and then ejaculate again. This second ejaculation may produce less semen or a lower sperm count than the first, but is usually deemed equally or even more pleasurable to the man. Some claim to have trained themselves to have multiple orgasms through techniques such as Tantric Sex. Tantric Sex employs breathing techniques, mantras and a system of mental rituals that supposedly gives a man the power to achieve multiple orgasms.

Any male who learns how to do this will achieve alpha male status, radiating a masculine charisma that is irresistible to women.

So how is it done?

The first starting point is to learn how to breathe properly. Most of us in the West breathe very shallow breaths. For relaxation, and effective flow of energy round the body, deep belly breathing is necessary. You expand you belly from the diaphragm, and it is the belly that rises as you breathe in, and falls as you breathe out, rather than the chest.

The prostate gland is an important focus of male sexuality and sexual response, and (more…)

A very interesting article about how masturbation could stimulate some organs (by arousing reflexology points located on the penis that are related to organs) in excess while the other organs are under stimulated. Believe it or not, I found it intriguing, and why not… useful to know it. From 777 Male Sexual Health

Male Masturbation and Reflexology

Various western religions and cultures have been condemning a form of masturbation for centuries. This regular way of masturbating involves stimulation of a particular area of the penis until semen is ejaculated. From the Taoist point of view, this way of masturbating is unhealthful since nutrients, energy, and other precious qualities of the semen are lost.

There is another reason why regular masturbation is unhealthful. If you are familiar with Foot Reflexology, you will know that the soles of the feet contain the endings of nerves and meridians and that various points on the feet correlate with various parts of the body. You will also know that by massaging these points, you can bring energy to their related organs. The penis, like the feet, also has reflexology points that are related to organs. (See Figure of reflexology zones of the penis) The heart zone of the penis is most easily stimulated. If a man massages this area of his penis, he experiences pleasurable sensations and reaches orgasm quickly. During masturbation, this area generally receives the most direct stimulation, to the neglect of the other reflexology zones - One organ (the heart) is over-stimulated while the other organs are under stimulated. This creates an internal imbalance.

The following story, reported by a sex counselor who took Taoist sexology, illustrates the consequences of internal imbalance. A married couple came to see this counselor after (more…)

The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point:
Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation
Prolongation of Arousal, and Longevity
From 777 Male Sexual Health

In Taoist Sexology, the man has his orgasm without ejaculating; he “injaculates” instead. By pressing an acupuncture point located halfway between the anus and scrotum, the ejaculation can be reversed into an improved orgasm and the semen is recycled from the full prostate and reabsorbed into the blood. This point is known as the Jen-Mo (Conception Meridian) acupuncture point. When pressed with a finger, this point feels as if there is a small indentation or hole in that location.

When the Jen-Mo point is pressed just prior to an anticipated ejaculation, the energy goes up into the body through the meridians which originate at this point, instead of going out of the body as it does during ordinary ejaculation.

Done in this way, the man still feels the pleasurable sensations which come with the pumping of the prostate, and he still experiences an orgasm. He continues to press this point until the orgasm, or “injaculation”, is complete. An important benefit derived from this technique is that the man will dramatically increase his ability to maintain an erection. (more…)