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How Can Orgasms Be Enhanced?

Researchers have found that men are capable of experiencing extremely intense orgasms, which involve the entire body, as opposed to the “local” sensation of ejaculation on its own.

There are also indications that men are able to experience multiple orgasms, which may or may not occur at the same time as ejaculation.

There is a widespread agreement among medical sex researchers that “the harder your erection and the longer you have sex, the more powerful the orgasm you’re likely to have”. Thus, the key to enhancing the male orgasm is to delay its occurrence for as long as possible. In turn, this means that a man will have enhanced orgasms if he is able to learn to hold back from having an ejaculation. The side benefit of being able to do this is that delayed ejaculation helps to increase fulfillment for the man’s sexual partner, as well as for himself.

There are various proven techniques that can be used by men to help them delay the occurrence of ejaculation. For example, a man can do Kegel exercises, which are designed to strengthen “the pelvic muscles around the base of the penis” – the same muscles that are squeezed “to avoid urinating”. When these muscles are strengthened, the man’s ability to delay ejaculation is greatly increased. The “stop-start technique” is another useful method to delay ejaculation (see also Male Multiple Orgasm, “Edging” Masturbation Technique, Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation - The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point Technique). In this technique, which is used during sex, “a man is repeatedly brought to higher levels of arousal and then stimulation is stopped just before ejaculation begins“.

It has also been noted that ejaculation can be delayed through the voluntary control of movements during sex. After the man’s ejaculation has been delayed, there are still other tricks that can be used to enhance his orgasmic pleasure. For example, it has been noted that the man’s prostate gland is as sensitive as a woman’s “G-spot”. In the words of the sex expert, Barbara Keesling, “to stimulate the spot and prolong your orgasm, ask your partner to gently press the skin right behind and under your testicles (called the perineum) before you ejaculate”.

Read also Male Multiple Orgasm, “Edging” Masturbation Technique, Injaculation Vs. Ejaculation - The ‘Million-Dollar’ Point Technique).

The male orgasm is analogous to the summit of a mountain: In trying to climb up this summit, a man must exert himself physically and emotionally. He must maintain an erection; his prostate must function at 100% capacity; he must pump, sweat, endure tension, anxiety, and stress; and, in the end, he must lose a big portion of his nutrients, energy, and hormones. Immediately after reaching the summit, the man collapses and falls into a deep abyss of exhaustion and feelings of emptiness, depression, guilt, anger, or hunger.

The man will also suffer from dry eyes and mouth, headaches, frequent urination, weakness, and the loss of a huge portion of his youth. Once he ejaculates he will have difficulty producing another erection. So, according to an old saying, “a living lion is reduced in a matter of seconds to a dead dog.” After ejaculating, a man usually rolls over and falls asleep, leaving a woman in a limbo halfway to heaven and halfway to earth. By following his physical instincts only, a man may not be able to take the woman beyond level four of the nine levels of a complete orgasm. The woman, unsatisfied, becomes resentful, angry, and frustrated.

In Taoist theory, this is called an Ordinary Orgasm, and it is the type of orgasm usually described - even encouraged - in most sex manuals (and school dorms). From the Taoist viewpoint, all the work, suffering, and loss traded for half a second of pleasure is uneconomical, worthless, and unwise. Unfortunately, men cannot abstain from (more…)

The Deer Exercise for Men:
Rejuvenation and Increased Arousal Period
From 777 Male Sexual Health

Thousands of years ago, Taoist sages selected three animals which were noted for longevity from the many: the deer, the crane, and the turtle. One of these, the deer, was also noted for its strong sexual and reproductive abilities. The sages minutely observed the behavior that seemed to contribute to the deer’s abilities. They saw that the deer exercised its anus when it wiggled its tail. After studying the results of the exercise, the sages immediately adopted the principle and redesigned it for human use. Thus, the Deer Exercise was born.

The Deer Exercise achieves four important objectives. First of all, it builds up the tissues of the sexual organs. Secondly, it draws energy up through six of the Seven Glands (Pineal, Pituitary, Thyroid, Thymus, Pancreas, Adrenal, Sexual) of the body into the pineal gland (The function of this pine cone shaped gland or body is not fully understood. It is generally believed to be a vestigial [no longer used] sensory organ which is incompletely developed in the modern anatomy; associated with the seventh chakra or the “third eye” used in space/time psychic exercises. )to elevate spirituality. (There is a hormone pathway that leads from the prostate, connects with the adrenal glands, and continues on to the other glands.) Concurrently, blood circulation in the abdominal area is increased. This rush of blood helps transport the nutrients and energy of the semen to the rest of the body.

When energy is brought up into the pineal gland, a chill or tingling sensation is felt to ascend through the spine to reach the head. It feels a little like an orgasm. (more…)

How To Masturbation for Men

Masturbation is considered by many to be the cornerstone of sexual health. Most men believe that they already know everything about their own genitals and sexual response. It’s all out there, boys will be boys, etc. But just because you know how your tools work, doesn’t mean you can build the Eiffel Tower. In fact most men experience a fraction of their full erotic and orgasmic potential. Read on for tips on masturbation techniques that can help you explore all your body has to offer.

Difficulty: N/A

Time Required: Male masturbation doesn’t have to always be a “quick affair”. Take your time and enjoy.

Here’s How:

1. Make time for more than a quickie.
Most guys first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways. They do it quickly and need to figure out what to do with the evidence afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for yourself, where you aren’t trying to finish quick before someone interrupts.

2. Turn off the porn (just for a while) and tune into your body.
Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of guys do, and while porn can be great, it also takes you out of your body a bit with the fantasy. This can distract you from what’s actually (more…)

Masturbatory Lubricants:

There’s a lot of different odd and slippery chemicals out there that can be applied to the penis, are there not? Well, here are a few different ones that I like and the reasons why I like them. Keep in mind that I don’t swear by any particular lubricant; variety is the spice of life.

* KY Jelly - This one is probably the favorite of many different people. Personally, I find that it’s handy (no pun intented) because it cleans up with just water (very important, especially if you are obsessive with your genital cleanliness, which everyone should be). Plus, on the off chance that you actually have a sex partner, you can use the very same lubricant for whatever sex activity you think you might get to experience.

On the down side, it dries out while you are using it so you need to continually rehydrate the lubricant using some water. Just a drop or two works just fine on all the lubricated surfaces; once you try that trick, you’ll never go back to your old ways again.

* Wet Lubricant - Basically similar to KY, but doesn’t seem to dry out quite the same way. Has a remarkably silky texture to it, much more so than the basic lubricational feel of KY. Does usually require additional applications of a drop or so if you’re in it for the long haul, but usually is ok on its own. Also has the same advantages as KY, with perhaps an even easier cleanup. Drawback is that it’s overpriced. Be sure to stay away from their “J/O” lube… it’s just mineral oil, which I’ll get to in a second. (more…)

This is AMAZING! My dick is RE-sensitizing!!
by PowerStroker

I am 47 yrs old, and I have been masturbating seriously since I was 9. Been a devoted fan more than once a day ever since. But I have always used the death grip of course. Plus, I’ve always injoyed thick, highly viscous lubes like Vasoline (remember that??) and currently Gun Oil. Because of all this abuse, I have always had a hard time orgasming inside a partner. I think I’ve cum inside, totally hands free, only about four times in my life. And two of those were blow jobs. Yep, sad, sad, but true. And you have to understand, I have A LOT of sex. I mean, A LOT. And this in addition to my “me time” jackin’.

But then came the Fleshlight! Now I think there might be a whole new world opening up to me. I can’t believe it.

I’m making progress daily with my new toys. I have been using these beauties for a little over a month now (already on my second bottle of Astroglide) and I’m now to the point that I have no problem cumming in them without ever touching my cock with my hands. I know this may sound silly, but I am really excited and encouraged. My next phase is to train myself to do it totally hands free. I like the between-the-matress method. I’m not there yet, but it’s getting closer and closer and I know to just be patient with myself and trust that my body will adjust. I really see the day coming when my cock is truely RE-SENSITIZED.

I almost came in a partner last night. I knew it was there for me and it felt so different, I think it sort of scared me a bit. I started to put pressure on myself mentally and began to loose it, so I pulled out and finished myself, but still…

I actually thought that there was something wrong with me until now. That I had ruined myself from ever being able to orgasm normally inside someone. Thank you FLESHLIGHT!! I’ve been telling all my buddies about this thing. I feel like a kid again!

Hope to report more soon.

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Nutrition plays a great role in determining both the content and volume of your ejaculate. Naturally, a balanced diet is essential for good sexual health, but the vitamins, minerals and supplements listed below can have a dramatic effect on the volume of ejaculate your body produces.

The supplement L-Arginine is an amino acid the body uses for a variety of important chemical and cellular processes. . .it is also believed to help you produce more volume of ejaculate. 500mg daily and (this is important…) 1,000mg 30-40 minutes prior to sexual activity. Like all natural supplements, you must be patient and allow your body’s “storehouse” to build-up. This period takes anywhere from 2-4 weeks depending upon the individuals baseline health and metabolic rate.

Zinc - One of the nutrients most critical for prostate health. The prostate needs 10 times more zinc than any other organ in the body. It is vital for preventing prostate problems. Unfortunately, 90% of men consume diets deficient in Zinc because most of our food is processed. Irving Bush and Associates at Chicago’s Cook County Hospital tested the effectiveness of Zinc supplementation on men with prostate problems. All patients reported symptomatic improvement while almost 80% had palpable shrinkage of the prostate gland. RDA is 15 mg…we recommend 45 mg per day.

Lycopene - is a natural anti-oxident that is prevalent in tomatoes. Recent studies show it to have roughly twice (more…)

The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as “Wand of Light.” In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a “Wand of Light” that channels creative energy and pleasure.

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

Beginning the Massage

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. (more…)

The Tantric Devotional Practice of Masturbation

Why do it?
So what is “tantric masturbation” all about? What’s the big deal? Isn’t cuming the whole point of having hardons? Cuming with as much volume and as much intensity and as often as possible?

Ignoring those blinded by contemporary culture to think that cocks and clits are only for making babies - no more than the regretably necessary evil of “procreation” according to the “Ancient Christian Holy Fathers”, even most gaymen, like our fellow citizens in general, are often rather dismissive of “MASTURBATION” as being no more than a poor substitute for the real thing, as something “LOSERS” do, etc., etc.

And then to NOT EVEN CUM?
What’s the point of that?
The answer to these questions, to these attitudes which have been so thoroughly, yet stealthily - unconsciously through the language with which we think - taught to those of us (see Tom Laqueur’s EXCELLENT new book, “Solitary Sex - A Cultural History of Masturbation” [2003 New York: Zone Books]) who are infected by Western culture (which, somewhat regretably includes many in Asia to some degree) can only be gotten experientially: one has to DO IT to see why one wants to do it. A bit of a catch-22. But I can say what I find its virtues to be: (more…)

Autofellatio
“Autofellatio is the act of oral stimulation of one’s own penis as a form of masturbation. While few human males are sufficiently well-endowed and/or flexible enough to perform the frontbend required, increased flexibility achieved via physical training such as gymnastics, contortion or yoga may make it possible for some.” - from Wikipedia

I’ve never tried it before, yet if you’re willing to, be careful !
This post is only a short review about the some of the different techniques, using any of them is on your own responsibility only.
Important: Read the following quick tips before (Tips from Self Indulgence):

* IMPORTANT:If you have any existing back problems, disk problems, and especially low back problems, you should exercise extreme caution in attempting to selfsuck. It might be advisable to not even attempt this trick at all. But if you are in reasonably good shape otherwise then proceed on through the tips.
* Stay hydrated: make sure you drink plenty of water on a regular basis to help reduce the chances of muscle cramping.
* If at all possible try to suck yourself with as little in your abdomen as possible, i.e. no food in your stomach and after a good bowel movement. The less things in the way the better!
* Practice will get you there eventually! Just keep trying in small amounts, and over a period of time (maybe a few weeks) you should be able to at least lick the head of your dick. The important thing is to not over do it by trying too hard all at once.
* The younger you are, the easier it will probably be for you simply because generally you are more flexibile when you are young. Age does not matter as much as being able to stretch and maitain your flexibility.
* If it feels like you are just too tight or tired - DO NOT force yourself! Better to wait for another time when you are more limber and better rested. If you pull your muscles or throw out your back you will be waiting a long time before you can try another selfsuck attempt.
* Always stretch and warm up before attempting to selfsuck to avoid injury to your back. Always be sure to stretch well afterward also to help prevent sore muscles.
* Do not attempt first thing in the morning or late at night when muscles are tight or you are tired.
* If you put your legs over your head, always roll up on a bed or cushioned surface to avoid knocking your back out of place.
* Any physical activiy that increases your flexibility is an advantage. Yoga is especially good or even Tai Chi may help.
* A hot shower helps get the muscles warmed up and relaxed.
* You may find that you can reach your dick more easily after a light work out.
* If you find that you simply cannot reach your cock, just enjoy coming into your own mouth. I especially like eating my own sweet & tasty precum! I tease myself as long as possible milking out as much precum as I can. I love sucking it out or drizzling it in my mouth and on my lips. Sometimes rubbing it all over the head of my cock and then licking it off. Can’t get enough of it! Yum!!

Stretching Exercises to Achieve Self Sucking:
A good stretch to begin with is to sit cross-legged on the floor, chair, couch, or bed. (You don’t have to be cross-legged, you could just draw your feet up to your crotch area.) Keeping your back straight, bend your head down until your chin rests on your upper chest. Hold it and relax your body until the tightness in your back lessens. (more…)